PARENTS GET IMPATIENT
Although there is no other greater reward than parenting, it can often feel frustrating as if our children should have come with a handbook. Raising a child is a daunting task that holds a lot of pressure, wanting to get it right and navigating our beliefs on parenting that have their roots in generations past. It may have seemed easy when our parents were doing it but as we get older, we see just how difficult it can be navigating the ups and downs of a highly emotional experience. Parents get impatient because we often get wrapped up in our daily life. We forget we are learning with our children too, which means we must be patient with them even if the favour isn’t returned.
Parents are, after all, human beings, with their own insecurities, doubts, and challenges. The pressure of not only parenting but the work-life balance can bring us to our wit’s end causing us to lose our patience especially when we deem tasks to be “simple”. Remember there is no perfect way to parent. It is a gift and an opportunity to help shape the future, instilling positive mindsets, and great values so the next generation can carry that into the world and spread kindness. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the fast pace of parenthood, with sleepovers, extracurriculars, friends and so much more, we forget to slow down and remember love is PATIENT.
Parenting is learning how to bend and maneuver while also teaching someone to do the same. We must teach a child from scratch; it may be easy to learn how to walk or talk but morals and judgment are where the hard part comes in. We all have flaws and as parents, we fear we might instill our flaws into our children. Everyone has heard the quote “do as I say not as I do” but it is time to combat this saying to train children’s brains to be kind. Everyone gets impatient, no one is perfect, but if we want to instill in children that to be kind is to be patient, we ourselves must model the same behaviour.
Today’s focus is on our wonderful parents. We encourage you to LET GO OF IMPATIENCE and LET LOVE IN!
Let us first begin with a brief understanding of what impatience is and how it happens.
Impatience is having or showing a tendency to be quickly irritated or provoked.
Parents’ impatience can be caused by many different reasons, some of them are:
- Pressure from work and commitments
- Behaviour and habits of your child, such as not listening
- Children having trouble completely tasks
Now that we have seen what causes impatience, we should move on to the part where we focus on how we can help let go of this heavy feeling. We need to keep our spirits high and not let this feeling bring us down. Following these steps below will help to let go of the impatience:
- Talk about why you are getting impatient – Talk to your children about why you are growing impatient with their behaviour in detail. By sharing your feelings your children will realize the effect of their actions.
- Ask is it your children or outside sources?– Find the root cause. Why do we take out frustration on others? Is your child not picking up a toy? Why are you feeling this way? When you try to dig deep into finding the root cause of your feelings, sometimes you realize it was caused by something which was not even in your control.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff– In the grand scheme of things, all that really matters is your children are happy and healthy. Be open with your children and move on, this will build a strong relationship with your kids.
- Be understanding – Be thankful for your beautiful children and the amazing life you have. It is easier said than done but try to see it from your child’s point of view. Don’t let your impatience come in the way of your relationship with your children.
Thank you for being dedicated to letting a TREMENDOUS amount of LOVE OUT, so you can create amazing people for the future.
Whether you are a parent, grandparent, or guardian YOU ARE a testimony that your courage, love, and commitment to parenting is the gift we all need to thrive. On behalf of our family at IDareU2Bee.com, we thank you for who you are!
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